John Jay Alexander Sr.

Born: Mon., May 10, 1954
Died: Mon., Oct. 7, 2013

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Mr. John Jay Alexander Sr., Middletown, died Monday October 7 at his home.  He was the husband of Mildred Ostmann Alexander.

Born in Laurel, May 10, 1954 he was a son of James F. and Marion Donaldson Alexander of Middletown. He was employed by the Washington Post Co. for 31 years as a mechanical reliability engineer until his retirement was presently employed by the Frederick News Post. He was a member of the Maryland Jeep Club and his many hobbies included: R C cars, slot cars, stunt kites, metal detectors, miniature engines, coins, cannons, biking, and lapidary all with his sons.  He was totally dedicated to his boys and was a No 1 father.

Surviving besides his wife and parents are:

5 sons - John Jay Alexander Jr - Frederick; Thad S. Alexander - Dallas, TX; Alexander Alexander and wife Kimber - San Antonio, TX; James Alexander - Frederick; Orlando Alexander - Dallas, TX

1 granddaughter - Kansas Luna Alexander (whom he loved dearly), his mother-in-law - Ellen Ostmann - Laurel, 2 aunts - Jane Alexander and Chris Rattay - both of Middletown and his best friend - Buddy Garrett and wife Merri Jo - Adamstown

His best friends were his Boston Terriers Rikki and Luci

There will be a private family visitation.  Funeral services and interment will be private.

Memorial contributions may be made to the Frederick County Animal Control, 1832 Rosemont Ave., Frederick, MD 21701

Donald B. Thompson Funeral Home, Middletown, is in charge of arrangements.

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tim & Gail Slane
   Posted Wed October 09, 2013
To - Milly, boys and the Alexander family, we express our deepest sympathy in your loss of Jay. We will always remember Jay as a dedicated, loving father and husband. Jay was always the first one to help out those in their time of need. Jay was a talented craftsman and he gave every task 110 % effort. We are sure that his children will display the same talents and will carry on Jay's legacy. Our prayers and thoughts are with you.
Tim & Gail Slane

Carol Quill
   Posted Wed October 09, 2013
Dear Millie and Family,

Please know that my heart goes out to you at this very sorrowful time.
Word cannot express my feelings and thoughts for you.
It was so good to reconnect after so many years.
Take good care until I see you again.

Carol Quill

Cody sends his love with a hug to you.

Jerry & Diane Proctor
   Posted Wed October 09, 2013
Millie, our deepest sympathy to you and the entire Alexander family. We enjoyed the lunches at the dinner in College Park and our most recent trip to the casino. Jay was a good friend to me since we first met at The Post in 1985. Very talented craftsman to say the least. Never lost his composure no matter the circumstances. The world has lost a first class "Trooper". Jerry

Marvin & Mary Koenck
   Posted Thu October 10, 2013
Miss Millie & Family,
We are so sorry for your loss. Please
accept our sincere & heartfelt sympathy.

James & Rita Slane
   Posted Thu October 10, 2013
Millie and family, sorry to hear about Jay. It was a shock. He was so young. In our youth (1970's) we (Jay, Tim, David, and myself) had many good times. Millie, Rita and I remember the Hayride / Bonfire and the Enchanted Forrest with you and Jay. It's hard to believe that was 30+ years ago. Again, so sorry about your loss. It's heartbreaking. Love.

cindy crawford
   Posted Thu October 10, 2013
My heart goes out to u during this difficult time. Remember when you lose someone you love you have an angel who will watch over you. Hold tight to memories for comfort and lean on god, friends and family for strength. Jay will forever be remembered and missed!

With love, cindy

Gary D. Sisson
   Posted Thu October 10, 2013
Millie, Alex, Kimber & Kansas

We are deeply sorry for your loss. We are praying that making it through the next few days and weeks you will experience some comfort from God. It may come from family or friends, it could be a smile, a handshake, some flowers a card or a prayer. But I know there is a God and He is the God of all comfort.

I know that I will not be able to replace Jay as Kansas' Grandfather, but I will with God's help, be the best "Papaw" I can for that precious little Alexander baby girl.

Amy, Tori and I send our love and prayers to you and all of the family!

Gary Sisson

Clint & Beverly Dustin and Bert & Nancy Brown
   Posted Thu October 10, 2013
Our Deepest Sympathy to you and your family. May your memories help to bring you comfort.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Love, Clint & Beverly Dustin and Bert and Nancy Brown

Carol DeGrange
   Posted Fri October 11, 2013
Dear Millie, Boys and the Alexander Family,

I was shocked and saddened to hear of Jays passing. Words cannot express the sadness that I feel for the entire family. You have been very special neighbors and friends over the years and I am here for you anytime you need a friend to lean on. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

Carol DeGrange & the DeGrange Family

Susan Donaldson
   Posted Fri October 11, 2013
Dear Millie and family, My sincerest condolences to you on the loss of Jay. I know how hard death affects the family. I pray you find comfort in God's words for I know he holds you in his arms to comfort you. Remember the wonderful life Jay and you shared for these memories will become treasures. Please give a hug to Peggy Lou and Jim from me. Jay, Jimmie and Uncle Frank are watching over all of us.

Susan Donaldson
(Brownsville, TX)

Jim and Pat Harrison
   Posted Sat October 12, 2013
Millie, Alex, Kimber and Kansas

Our deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family at this sad time. John was a very likeable guy and he will be greatly missed.

Eric and Karen Thomas
   Posted Sun October 13, 2013
Millie and family, we are so sorry to hear of your loss. I really enjoyed my time working with Jay at the Post. While sharing an office with him I learned so much from him. We often think of the the time we spent in Hawaii with you guys. Jay will be missed, may God bless you and your family.

Eric and Karen

Allan Martin
   Posted Sun October 13, 2013
I worked with Jay for many years to which I truly enjoyed his great skills and wonderful personality. I am so sorry to hear of his sudden death and hope that his family does not suffer too much from their loss. Jay was a great person and he touched many lives.

Joe & Joyce Balog
   Posted Mon October 14, 2013
Our deepest sympathy and sincere condolences to the Alexander family.

Susan Hamalainen
   Posted Mon October 21, 2013
Dearest Millie, Very sad to hear this news. Very hard to loose someone you love. Just know that many others are also grieving with you. My prayers are with you at this time the days ahead, may you find comfort in the wonderful times you had together. Many great memories. Love and hugs to you. Susan Bus#1420

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